Little sad this Easter…Missing my nieces and nephew

Every Easter, Christmas and Birthday we deposit money into the accounts we opened for our twin nieces and our nephew when they were born.  As I transfer the funds into their accounts today, it is making my mind wander to both a happy and a sad place.



Easter 2004 – Our Backyard

 I’m sad…
Our nieces will be 10 this year.  3 months after they were born we were offered a free house that would have taken me back to Massachusetts to be near my family and we turned it down because we really wanted to be here and see our nieces grow up.  Not being able to have children ourselves, we wanted to be around for them and be an awesome Aunt and Uncle.



March 2007

Unfortunately my BIL’s first wife came to her senses and realized how immature, irresponsible and what a liar her husband was, so she divorced him. 
Additionally, all the decent girls he dated after also dumped him when they realized how immature he was and the only girl that would have him is also a compulsive liar and a bit psycho.  Because of all the damage she has done to the entire family and all the lies he has told, we haven’t been able to see our nieces since December 2009.  Now that we are relocating to the East Coast and they are living in California, it is a realization that we probably will not see them again until they are 18, which makes us sad.

However, I’m VERY happy…
Our nephew Logan is 28 months and we had a wonderful visit with him in December and will be going back again later this year.  We are currently 2200 miles away from their home in Portland, ME.  After our move to Virginia in 98 days, we will only be 650 miles away from them, making it much easier to see them every few


Logan Easter 2011

months.  I think I’ll have to buy them a futon chair so they have someplace for Auntie to sleep on her many long weekends up there.  Microfiber Suede Futon Bed

My baby brother found an awesome woman to spend the rest of his life with and I look forward to watching them blossom. 

I have a very kind Uncle, a wacky Aunt and an awesome gaggle of cousins that I look forward to seeing on a more regular basis and finally being close enough to attend family functions like holidays and weddings.

Hope everyone has a Happy Easter!

April is Autism Awareness Month – for my nephew

April is Autism Awareness Month

My adorable 28 month old nephew, Logan, was officially diagnosed with Autism today. 
He is fortunate to have excellent parents that even though he is their first child and they are in their early twenties, were mature and aware enough to know something just wasn’t right with their son early on and availed themselves of every resource at their disposal to aid their son when by the age of 18 months he wasn’t talking and didn’t like to eat.
Logan started working with a Speech Therapist several months ago which helped lead to a diagnosis at this early stage.  Now with the official diagnosis, he will be able to start work with an Occupational Therapist and we have every confidence he will be able to “catch up” to his peers. 
Logan is a sweet, loving child that is very bright (he figured out my iPad in a matter of minutes before he was 2) and well behaved.  With the proper therapy and education, we have no doubt that he will blossom under the care of his loving and devoted parents.  I don’t think a boy could ask for more loving and devoted parents than my brother, Greg and his wife, Valerie.  I love you guys!  Miss you! 
We’ll still be 650 miles away after we move, but it’s alot closer than the 2200 miles away we currently are.  We’ll be able to see each other alot more and if you need us, we can be there in under 5 hours.  You better get a sleepaway couch for all the long weekends Aunt Kissytina will be visiting!

Did you know …

  • Autism now affects 1 in 110 children and 1 in 70 boys
  • Autism prevalence figures are growing
  • More children will be diagnosed with autism this year than with AIDS, diabetes & cancer combined
  • Autism is the fastest-growing serious developmental disability in the U.S.
  • Autism costs the nation over $35 billion per year, a figure expected to significantly increase in the next decade
  • Autism receives less than 5% of the research funding of many less prevalent childhood diseases
  • Boys are four times more likely than girls to have autism
  • There is no medical detection or cure for autism

Prevalence vs. Private Funding

  • Leukemia: Affects 1 in 1,200 / Funding: $277 million
  • Muscular Dystrophy: Affects 1 in 100,000 / Funding: $162 million
  • Pediatric AIDS: Affects 1 in 300 / Funding: $394 million
  • Juvenile Diabetes: Affects 1 in 500 / Funding: $156 million
  • Autism: Affects 1 in 110 / Funding: $79 million

National Institutes of Health Funds Allocation

  • Total 2010 NIH budget: $35.6 billion
  • Of this, only $218 million goes directly to autism research. This represents 0.6% of total NIH funding.

How Children Are Used As Ammunition

Come on where’s your pride? We all know this is a horrid, low and destructive way to behave. It’s hard not to, so reading this might just help you to get a grip of your narcissism and rise above such harmful behavior.

This behavior not only has an impact on parents, but Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins and Siblings.

HOW CHILDREN ARE USED AS AMMUNITION

•Hijacking their important events

•Training them to take sides

•Putting them in the middle

•Using them as a confidant

•Burdening them with adult problems

•Exposing them to conflict

•Taking away the carefree, innocence that children have a right to

HOW PEOPLE MIGHT JUSTIFY IT

•This is their mess and I’m buggered if I am going to clear it up

•I didn’t want this its all her fault

•I told you the children would be badly affected and look they are

•I have someone new to replace you, you’re no longer needed

WHY IS IT A RIDICULOUS NOTION?

•Children used in this way are having a miserable childhood

•Children who are treated in this way will grow up to be adults who will judge this behaviour unfavourably

•Children used in this way may develop self-esteem, communication and trust issues

•Children used in this way may grow up to be screwed up adults.

•This behavior is not consistent with good parenting

•Behaving like this will not make anything better, rather radically worse.

•By doing this you are jeopardizing your relationship with the children now and in the future

•Accept in the cold light of day that this is not only madness but cruel

•It is completely selfish

UNDERSTAND THE HARM IT DOES

Children are extremely observant, they notice and don’t forget and how you behave even in difficult situations. They will grow up and be in no doubt about who rose above the situation, who tried to make life easy and helped them to deal with it.

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Mi Madre es Loca!!!

My mother has finally gone off the deep end.  Those of you that know me have heard this before, but she’s way off now.  The older she gets, the more psychotic she gets!
First, the backstory:
My brother, Greg, his wife Val and their 17 month old son, Logan move from Maine to Florida a few months ago.  With summer approaching and the humidity rising, Val (who has never before lived outside of Maine) is having trouble breathing.  She suffered a collapsed lung in 2005 & again in 2007.  Doctors were not able to determine why her lung collapsed even after performing a biopsy on her lung.  Now she is getting crackling in her right lung and has trouble breathing with the high levels of humidity in Orlando.
Val’s family has made the arrangements to move them back to Maine for Val’s health and my mother offered to let them stay in her spare room until they saved up a deposit.  She even arranged a job for Greg with one of her loser boyfriends.
Arrangements have all been made and my mother calls Greg back and tells him she’s changed her mind.  She can’t trust him because he talks to his father and his sister.  So it’s either her, or his father & sister.  She goes on to tell him she wants nothing to do with him, her only daughter in law and her only grandson unless he agrees to cut off all contact with his father and sister.
I feel bad for him.  His wife is sick and his mother disowns him, his wife and her only grandchild simply because he dares to facebook with his father and sister.
I thought this kind of behavior from her would stop when I cut her out of my life.  You know how they say the parent usually only chooses one child to be abusive towards; well that was always me.  It never occured to me that she would shift her emotional & psychological manipulation & abuse to my baby brother when I cut her off.

Then she calls him back a little while later and tries to act like nothing happened. P-S-Y-C-H-O

Contrary to what I’ve written here, I am actually speechless right now.  I don’t understand how someone can care more about what their friends and co-workers think about them than their own family.

Finally Met My Nephew!!!!



I finally had a chance to meet my nephew!! He’s 17 months old today and totally adorable!! I also haven’t had a chance to see my brother since 2003!

The circumstances were sad, my baby brother Greg & I have different fathers and his step-mom passed away unexpectedly last week. This led to Greg coming to Texas to see his dad with his son Logan.

Chet (ex-stepfather) invited Jerry & I up to Magnolia, so we packed our bags and hit the road! It was very hard for me because of the agoraphobia. I haven’t been away from the house for more than 4 hours since last year and this was a 48 hour stay, but there was no way I was missing the chance to see my brother and meet my nephew!

We had a great time just sitting around chatting. We spent 6 hours the first day and 9 hours the second day just hanging out at Chet’s house talkin’. I haven’t talked that much since high school.

Magnolia is very pretty. Lots of tall pine trees and has a very New England feel to it which I love! On the drive back our Garmin took us the back country highways which were very scenic going through Bastrop State Park. We saw over 100 motorcyclists out enjoying the day.

The only thing missing was Greg’s wife Valerie. She had to stay in Orlando because of work!

Romeo (my little therapy pomeranian) went with us while Cupid and Flapjack stayed home. Romeo was the only one we felt was ready for a weekend away from home and the long car ride. He behaved himself very well and he loved being off leash to explore the woods in Magnolia.